My 'finishing school' college in Florida (attended for my first 2 years of college) was routinely dissed by my Princeton U brother and his Princeton U GF. My 3rd year of college had me attending Rutgers University about 90 miles from my parents' home. After a couple of weeks at Rutgers, I notice things moved and missing from my home BDR closet shelves. I was missing my Samuelson Economics book ... a used book I bought for a Florida class the prior year with 1st student's name and now mine written in it.
Asked my sisters and my dad, if they had borrowed it. Asked my mom, who had been upstairs in MY bedroom.
After my asking the same questions several different ways ... my mom recalled by brother's girlfriend who attended Princeton U .. a year younger then me ... had stopped by, to fetch a book from his bedroom. He was 3 years OLD than her... had also attending Princeton ,,, as an enginering major.. And the book she STOLE was mine from in my bedroom in my parents' house. So on my way back to Rutgers ... I stopped by Princeton U, found her dorm, knocked on the door to her suite. She was talking to my brother in North Datoka where he was living ... looked around her shared bedroom, found MY book with MY class work (graded papers in it) and walked out saying .. "stay out of my xxxxing bedroom back home, YOU thief!"
My Rutgers dorm was about 30 minutes away ... and the floor phone was ringing off the hook for me .. Her, my brother, my parents .. demanding that I drive back to Princeton and give HER BOOK back to her ... as she had a big test in a couple of days. I told EVERYONE who continued calling, she needed to BUY herself a book instead of STEALING mine out of my bedroom back home.
My parents called and I told them, she is stealing out of your HOUSE.... my college book I paid for but how much of YOUR STUFF has she taken. And you really think I should be giving my book back to a thief? THEY DID think I should return it because SHE needed to do her homework .. I hung up on my parents.
My brother called me from ND and I told him YOU NEVER had Economics ... and that is the book Debbie stole... which I took back. And I used multiple are nicknames. Told his he was a dummy.
6 months later, they got married. I went back to college in FL ... they gave me an empty box for a hair dryer for Christmas 6 months after the wedding ... Debbie clearly said, "that was her box and she liked hers a lot... but the store had sold out of them. And she would get me one, after it got re-stocked." I said, "oh, right."
I didn't give Debbie or my brother anything as a wedding present.
Debbie never made good on my empty box Christmas present promise.
Debbie got her Princeton Degree after completing her last 2 years .. got no graduation card from me.
And 8 months after Debbie's degree, 1 months after another Xmas ... Debbie moved in with her NYC lawyer boyfriend.
And my brother paid off all their/her credit card debt and she paid for the divorice.
Karma does come around ... she and her 2nd husband had a couple of kids and she died before the kids got into elementary school .. from cancer.
PS I was an active Girl Scout thru end of my high school years. My HS years in scouting was with a troop in a nearby town .. a blue collar town. My best girlfriend's father (Pete) was an union teamster and my GS friend's father had 15+ years earlier work with Debbie's dad. Debbie's family apartment caught fire and Pete had their family move into the lower level of his split level home for almost a year until Pete & wife were ASKED them strongly to LEAVE. When the engagement anouncement made the newspapers ... my GF mother & husband (Pete) expressed their concerns ... seems Debbie's parents were role models for Debbie's (dis)Honorable acts. And I regularly had kitchen table discussions about other antics Debbie was pulling while married to my brother. Don't think Debbie had a CLUE (or would even have thought, I knew Pete's family ... who daughter was my best friend since freshman year of HS).