Definitely didn't mean it as a male thing. Sorry it was taken that way.
No, I really didn't take it that way, I was just being ornery
My anti-sexist radar has been sharpened by the "office wife" thread
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Definitely didn't mean it as a male thing. Sorry it was taken that way.
I'm with PJRose on this. I do believe in personal responsibility, for men and women, but I find it odd how people apply that principle here.
For example, shouldn't the commissioner take responsibility for his conduct? He created confusion by not enforcing the rules from the very start. Also, the punishment he imposed, from which he gained financially, was ham-fisted. Whether we agree with the punishment or not, I think it's obvious the commissioner did not do a stellar job.
To "man" up and accept a fair punishment is one thing, but to accept an unfair punishment is another. I'll give an example. The husband of an old friend's sister was a garbage inspector for a municipality. That city had strict rules on what could go into recycling bins. If you mixed the garbage and recycling, you received a $1,000 fine (this was about 20 years ago). This jerk, after a family was fined, would go check that family's garbage repeatedly to try to impose fines over and over. He found that hilarious. Now, do you think those families should've just "manned" up and accepted their fines of several thousand dollars for mixing up their recyclables? After all, there's no doubt that they broke the rules.
I am NOT taking sides in this particular discussion or incident, but I do wonder why is taking personal responsibility a male-thing? If I were the person who forgot to click whatever it was, would I be exempt?
As a "woman" (or so it appears), we expect you to be a bit of an air-head, scatter-brained and more interested in shiny baubbles (or shoes), than with finishing what you started. Thus, you just bat those eye lashes, and you get an automatic waiver. [ummm... this is satire, of course]
No, I really didn't take it that way, I was just being ornery
You, go, Girl!
Oops, is that out of line? Please no one blast me! I didn't mean anything by that! I'm not assigning gender as to who has the ability to be best at being ornery.
No harm, no foul
I do sometimes pride myself on orneriness (is that even a word?) but I can think of some male TUGgers who may take the prize for it on this board!
Moxjo, I'm trying to figure out how to say this to you nicely and I really hope that you're not insulted by it - it's not meant as an insult. But I think you're not helping the dispute by playing the martyr here. None of you who won something more than what you would have if the other guy didn't make a mistake, is doing anything wrong by accepting your winnings. If I was one of the guys who took my winnings and then heard you comment that you felt you didn't "earn" them, I'd be mad as all get-out at you because by your actions and comments you would be inferring that I'm morally lacking somehow. In addition, you would be making the commish look bad for simply trying to impose the rules and stop making his role more difficult than it should be.
This is not a legitimate comparison from what I have gathered, but maybe you are privy to more than I am regarding this friendly dispute that has turned nasty. I bow to your opinion. I'm sure your opinion is right. Where do I come up with these crazy thoughts from which I form my personal opinions?
I mis-interpreted everything....I thought these were long-term friends. Not mean-spirited people (ie Inspector) trying to take advantage of strangers for their own personal enjoyment due to possible mental illness or no soul or a superiority complex.
I think you're wrong here and the rule was in place before the start of the season. It sounds like the commish was just trying to be a nice guy in the first half of the season in cleaning up after other peoples mistakes. That was his big mistake. There's a saying that "no good dead goes unpunished". He had nothing to do with this player making this mistake and in fact warned them 8-10 weeks ago that he was going to stop cleaning for them. He's the one I feel sorry for b/c instead of the person who made the mistake manning up and just taking it as a life lesson like it should be, he's blame shifting (unfortunately with the encouragement of the OP) over to the commish to the point of acusing him of stealing.
It would be hillarious to sew Judge Judy have this case. I don't think the OP would like hearing what she had to say.
Post #50 was hillarious! Talk about over the top.
And you're OK with that? I can't see how.
You see nothing wrong with that?
You seem to totally exonerate him, whereas I put the blame squarely on him, so we disagree there too.
As a "woman" (or so it appears), we expect you to be a bit of an air-head, scatter-brained and more interested in shiny baubbles (or shoes), than with finishing what you started. Thus, you just bat those eye lashes, and you get an automatic waiver. [ummm... this is satire, of course]
Actually, I think the comparison is valid. We have one individual imposing disproportionate penalties for minor infractions in both cases. And not all of the fantasy players agree with the commissioner. At least some of them think he is being too harsh - I believe the OP has more insight into the character of the commissioner than anyone else here.
What does the $450 loser that Joe (MOXJO7282) is referring to think about this? We know what Joe thinks, but does his friend that lost out due to the mistake feel the same way?
I couldn't disagree more. Rule was not in place before season. He put the rule in place because he is lazy and petty. If the effort to "reconcile" took 3 minutes a week that would be alot. So he implied an extreme penalty to stop a minor annoyance to him. Another thing that is just blantantly wrong.
We're actually looking into Judge Judy because we feel we would win. I work with a number of attorneys and they have said we would win. The court would question the commish's right to impose unilateral rules, without consensus and also as Larry suggested, would allow a minor technicality to be a knock-out blow as one attorney put it. The fact that the rule was presented mid-season and the loser vehemently opposed would bode well in his favor.
They also advised me the court would look at intent, which is clear here, and the outcome, and who was truly harmed and who would unfairly benefit form the mistake.
You obviously didn't want opinions, but folks to agree with you, even though in the opening you said you weren't going to say where you stood on the issue. Because you wanted opinions.
It is evident that you didn't want opinions, but support. You should have been more clear on the rules by which opinions could be offered. I think that someone changed the rules mid-thread. Oh, my gosh! I demand arbitration!
It wasn't enough to get the fantasy football group riled up....now it's TUGGERs! :ignore:
This thread started out friendly, but is rapidly becoming nasty. Eeeek! Oh, no......Lucy's got her panty's in a bunch!
Sorry, I'm Bill....remember? I'm not Lucy, Larry. Calm down, you're not thinking clearly. You're confusing me with someone else.
I'm the one that bowed to your superior opinion. What more do you want?
I didn't have the proper credentials to form an opinion, and for that I apologize.
The OP is surprised that more folks don't feel the same way that he does regarding the situation? Hmmmm. I guess he was looking for overwhelming support and apparently looks negatively upon those that believe in Personal Responsibility.
I'm sorry my sense of fairness overrules in this case an I'm surprised more don't feel that way.
. . . This guy did nothing wrong but make a minor immaterial error that had no impact on the outcome but broke a rule that in my book is totally invalid.
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One solution, Joe. Obviously your league tallies are done on a computer but none of you have forgotten how to do math on paper. Is it possible for every week to be re-tallied with NONE of the same technical mistakes being allowed? You did say that the commish put his foot down at some point mid-season and stopped allowing it, which I take to mean that he did allow it before that point. Well, remove that impropriety completely from the season. That would be the most fair, I would think, if the entire season could be re-tallied according to the same set of rules for every week.
... I am surprised more don't have a sense of fairness in this case....
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My friend could care less about the money, but feels the commish who was his best friend totally betrayed him with his pettiness.
He really thought he would say "hey I can't let this is be decided by a technicality" and do the right thing but he didn't, so the loser is pretty sadden by that.
That's my biggest thing with this.
Would those that side with the commish have no problem doing that to your best friend? Or even just a "friend".
You know your friend beat you fair and square and because of an undisputed technicality that didn't affect outcome you would take the money without any conscience?
Really?
That is 100% dead wrong in my book.