Thanks for the suggestions --- I have been off of TUG for awhile due to the premature birth of my first grandbaby (my son and daughter-in-law's --- not the bride to be). She is doing well now and we are truly delighted to be grandparents.
One of the things that Laura requested was that Ian and I host a fun run the morning of the wedding. I rented a pavilion at Brandywine Creek State Park for the food and such.
Laura, being very practical, and not at all into conspicuous consumption, has decided that the pavilion will work just fine for the wedding as well.
So, we are having the fun run in the morning and Ian and I are providing breakfast and drinks.
Then, after noon, the wedding and reception where they will have sandwiches, cake, punch, and coffee.
Later in the day, they are hosting a "family dinner." Which will be just that dinner for the family --- which is quite large.
She has told me that she doesn't intend to have flowers or music. She hasn't mentioned anything about decor, either. So, I suspect that there won't be any.
She wants a very laid back, friendly, hang-out-together vibe. One of the things that Ian has always said is that the day isn't about the wedding, it's about the marriage. I think that she has absorbed that and will be acting on it.
Thanks for taking the time to respond to the suggestions.
elaine