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Cathyb

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It has been a while since I posted. I miss TUG a lot but when life circumstances make it impossible to travel, there is a little piece of me that broke off and it actually made me sad to post here.

My DH, Bruce, just completed his eighth Chemo session for Stage 4 Lung Cancer. I am telling everyone I know that has ever smoked to get a chest xray!!! He hadn't smoked in 40 years yet that didn't clear him of developing this cancer. It has metastasized and he may have a year to live if lucky.

We found out about this cancer while at a timeshare in Florida. Went to one of their meetings, he had some type of strange happening where he went stoic and did not respond to anyone/anything. I asked someone to call 911 and he was in the hospital for 4 days during which they found this cancer.

In addition to it, he has progressive dementia and life has been very difficult. Feel like I have an eight year old, have to watch him constantly, put out clothes to wear, his driver's license has been taken, he cannot remember much of anything anymore.

Ironically, the dementia has helped him thru the cancer. He does not remember why he gets the intravenous shots so he isn't worried, like I am.

So my TUG friends, that is why I have not posted. When I don't see the fun travels you all are taking -- I don't miss it quite so much. Take care. Cathy;)
 

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Thoughts and prayers extended. Yours is an extremely difficult journey and I sincerely hope that God helps you to find your way and some measure of peace while travelling along that long, painful and arduous path.
 
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So sorry to hear this Cathy. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Thanks for posting...that must have been hard to do.
 

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I am so sorry for what mus be so difficult for you to go through ~ let alone share with us. Thoughts and prayers to you and yours. Take care of yourself ~ we're here if you need to talk.
 

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Praying for you both.

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Thank you for posting, my wife and I will be praying for you both. I want to quote part of your post so it doesn't get lost in the gravity of your situation. We've had a discussion about smoking at resorts recently here on TUG.


I am telling everyone I know that has ever smoked to get a chest xray!!! He hadn't smoked in 40 years yet that didn't clear him of developing this cancer.
 

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I understand what you mean by not wanting to post here. Sorry that you are going through such turmoil right now. I'm glad that his memory is at least keeping him from being too distraught. HUGS
 

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I'm sorry that you are having to go through this right now. It doesn't seem fair to deal with so many things at the same time. Prayers for you and your family.
 

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So sorry to hear this. I am praying for both of you and sending you a heartfelt hug.
 

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So sorry. BIG TUG HUG.
 

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Cathy, my heart goes out to you. In this case the ALZ has probably meant that he doesn't have to cope so much (but you do).

Suggest you get a book called "36 Hour day" which you can get online at Amazon or Half.com (used). It is very helpful for ALZ Caregivers. It is in a question and answer form, each question its own chapter, and most are a page or two, so you can jump around easily.

Take care, Sis.

Fern
 

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Cathy,

I'm so sorry to hear this -- prayers to you and your family in this difficult time, we will look forward to your return when the time is right.

Best,

Greg
 

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Oh, Cathy, we knew you'd hit a rough patch from your last few posts. My wife and I hope for your comfort and well being. May your husband find comfort, and you find peace in the knowledge that you have done your best.

We can't stop all the vacation talk while you are not able to go, but we can take a break and offer both of you {{{TUG HUGS}}}.

All the best, and we hold you in our hearts.

Jim
 

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Tug friends are the best. Cathy, sending you many Tug Hugs at this difficult time.

Dave
 

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:( Very sorry to read...hope things get better soon.
 

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Boy, you all know how to make a grown woman cry! Thank you for all the prayers, TUG hugs and well wishes. Fern, I will buy that book!

Enjoy those vacations and get that chest xray if you ever smoked. God speed. Cathy
 

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Cathy,

You sure have had a lot to handle recently. Please know you have friends here and that we're all praying for you and Bruce.

Hugs,
Von
 

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Cathy,

I'm so sorry to hear this news. This is a terrible time for both you and your husband. ALZ and cancer are terrible diseases. My heart, thoughts, love, and prayers go out to you both.

Jan
 

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Just a quick message offering support and well wishes. I hope that life offers those beautiful moments along the way in which you both can't help but smile and rejoice, even though faced with a difficult outcome. May memories of the wonderful travels together that you've shared help soften the pain of the journey ahead.
 

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What a tough row to hoe. Our prayers and thoughts are with you Cathy.
 

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Cathy,
I hope and pray you have a lot of support as I am sure this can be a lonely journey.You are in my thoughts and prayers. Please take care of yourself.

Carolyn
 

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Cathy,

My prayers are with you. I am going through a similar debilitating situation with my husband. I know that the caregiver MUST take care of herself. This is what my friends tell me, and I read TUG because it cheers me up to envision the many travel tales and contribute when I can. Since I also work full time, it is taxing to say the least. I will PM you.

Folks here on TUG are really a great community.
Take care and try to find time for yourself, even if for a short weekend break.
 

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Our thoughts are with you. This is a tough thing to experience and more and more of us will be facing these types of realities as we age.
 

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You are a wonderful wife. My prayers will be with you on this journey.
 
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