Has anyone been to a non-skiing-oriented, non-mountain resort in December/January that has lots of snow and lots of snow activities on-site or nearby? My California family would very much like to experience cold weather and snow...sledding, skating, cross-country skiing maybe, snow shoe hiking etc. I do not much like driving on snowy, curvy, mountainous roads, so I am hoping to find a resort with somewhat easy, reliable access roads. Would anyone have any suggestions for us? Thanks!
Whistler is your best bet. While Whistler is known for skiing, it is a sufficiently big destination that there are many other snow related activities, including every one of the items you mention. Access is also pretty easy.
A second option is take any timeshare in Vancouver. From Vancouver you can access all of the snow activities in the immediate Vancouver area, plus you have the advantage of visiting the most beautiful in western North America. (I lived in the Bay Area for 17 years, and Vancouver's beauty easily outclasses San Francisco, IMHO.)
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Among snow resorts in western North America, Whistler is probably at the lowest elevation. That means much less likelihood of encountering snow and ice. I've been going to Whistler for eight years now, and I've never needed to chain up - or even had to deal with significant ice for that matter. Certainly there is occasionally ice or snow on the road, but it occurs much less frequently.
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I just realized another great selection for you would be Island Park in Idaho. IP is in the heart of prime snowmobiling and cross-country areas, and almost no mountain roads to get there. IP is also pretty close to West Yellowstone, where you can get a snow coach into Yellowstone to view Yellowstone in the winter. In the winter the geysers are spectacular and the wildlife is incredible. The animals come down from the mountains in the wintertime, so there is much more wildlife easily viewable.
Getting to West Yellowstone does require crossing one mountain pass, so another option is to stay in West Yellowstone. West Yellowstone is probably the snowmobile capital of North America, and it is also the takeoff point for snow coaches into Yellowstone National Park.
I've done snowmobiling out of West Yellowstone and it is simply fantastic. We took our machines to the peak of Two Top Mountain, then crossed the continental divide into Idaho and stopped at the headwaters of the Henrys Fork of the Snake River.