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My dad is 81 and in relatively good health. To me he seems just fine other than that he probably couldn't be any more critical if he tried. Nothing is ever good enough or right. Whatever. I do call him out on that.
He recently flew to Hawaii by himself for a high school reunion and to see family. I am hearing reports that it hasn't gone well. Of course old cranky dude has rubbed people the wrong way (duh) but apparently there was an incontinence issue (ugh) and a refusal to bathe afterwards (what??). He is obviously depressed - he lost his wife in October and had to move in with my brother - long story there - and has no friends. His entire social life was through his late wife. I try to have him down for a few days each month to change things up, but boy is he challenging.
For those of you who have been through this - how do you help someone like this? I am at a loss. Should he still be traveling alone? Driving? He says that he is "fine" and I am sure that he believes that but I am not so sure. Where do families start from here? Are there organizations for seniors who don't need to be in assisted living but are starting to have some decline? I'm clueless. Any information would be greatly appreciated.
He recently flew to Hawaii by himself for a high school reunion and to see family. I am hearing reports that it hasn't gone well. Of course old cranky dude has rubbed people the wrong way (duh) but apparently there was an incontinence issue (ugh) and a refusal to bathe afterwards (what??). He is obviously depressed - he lost his wife in October and had to move in with my brother - long story there - and has no friends. His entire social life was through his late wife. I try to have him down for a few days each month to change things up, but boy is he challenging.
For those of you who have been through this - how do you help someone like this? I am at a loss. Should he still be traveling alone? Driving? He says that he is "fine" and I am sure that he believes that but I am not so sure. Where do families start from here? Are there organizations for seniors who don't need to be in assisted living but are starting to have some decline? I'm clueless. Any information would be greatly appreciated.
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