Living on the East coast, Aruba is the best destination for us. That said, the decision would be more difficult if we lived on the West coast, since we wouldn't be comparing 11+ hours of flying time to 4 1/4 hours. We own at the Surf Club in Aruba and have been there maybe 20 times, and to Maui OC once.
Here are some comparisons:
- Hawaii is a lush, beautiful tropical island, while Aruba is a desert island. There are some pretty areas, but I won't begin to compare the landscape
- unlike many Caribbean islands, we feel very safe traveling through most areas in Aruba, and do not feel uncomfortable exploring or going outside the resort for dinner, shopping, etc. Feel just as safe walking around there as in Maui
-restaurants- personally, I like the food much better in Aruba. Lots of great restaurants, with several restaurants on the beach. There's a wide variety of choices and I think the price-point for a nice dinner is a little less overall in Aruba.
-weather- for us, this is where Aruba wins hands down. It is below the hurricane belt, and the waters are blue and warm all year round. The weather is consistent. Of course,t here are exceptions, but in about 20 trips we've experienced heavy rain overnight (who cares, we're sleeping) and most trips there will be a 10 minute rainy period once or twice during the week. In all our trips we only experienced one afternoon where it rained for 2 hours straight. Additionally, while some don't like it, we love the constant cooling breeze. I like that when I return to my room I shower because I know I've been in the pool (love the Lazy River) or in the beach, but not because I'm feeling hot and gross.
In contrast, summer in Hawaii (a popular time to go with the kids when they're out of school) is hot, and it can be VERY hot. Just returned from a week in Aruba with the grandkids and the weather was great all week, and easy to run around and play with the little ones. We were in Maui in Dec. two years ago and it rained 6 out of 7 days, with a light to moderate rain for more than half of the days. There were days when we gave up sitting by the pool because even wrapped in a towel it was just too cool and cloudy, when it wasn't raining. Of course, we likely had a bad week weather-wise, but it's not the rare occurrence it is in Aruba. We still had a great week, but it would have been more difficult if we had kids with us because of the weather.
I also think the time of year makes a difference- temps may be similar, but the cooling breezes in Aruba make all the difference. In the summer Hawaii can get very hot, and a typical August week in Aruba is in the high 80's; even if it goes into the low 90's you don't feel like you're roasting. July in Maui can feel oppressive. Winter months are less of an issue.
- snorkeling- easy access off the shore in both locations. In Maui is right by the resort at Black Rock, as well as nearby driveable locations, while at Aruba there's several good snorkeling beaches a few miles away. Snorkelong is amazing in Hawaii but the crystal blue waters of the Caribbean are terrific too.
If distance wasn't an issue, for me the scales would probably tip in favor of Maui, but for my husband I know it would be Aruba hands down. And I think my family is similarly split. Isn't it wonderful to have such "hard" choices?