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My Lucky Son.

Discussion in 'TUG Lounge' started by jjking42, Sep 30, 2019.

  1. jjking42

    jjking42 TUG Member

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    Ever heard of Venmo. Kids send and collect money all the time for sharing expenses etc. not a week goes by that we don’t Venmo one of our kids money for something, tuition , books, food , auto repairs , medical bill etc. I have three kids in college so the expenses never stop
     
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    Congrats, I know you are so proud!!
     
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    Congratulations to your son! That is a great accomplishment and you are a great Dad for providing a well-deserved vacation!
     
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    Congratulations Jim. I assume he is interning at Bell Helicopter in ARLINGTON? My DS interned at Parker Hannifin (Mechanical Engineer) and then went to work for them when he graduated from UTA. He changed jobs about 2 years ago and really debated working for Bell Helicopter or Lockheed Martin ( had offers at both). Ended up going with Lockheed. He's been happy with his choice. When he was deployed, Lockheed not only held his position but paid him almost his full salary as well.

    He will have lots of choices in the DFW area if he decides to stay
     
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    Been to:
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    US: AZ, CA, DC, DE, IL, IN, KY, MD, NC, NJ, NV, NY, OH, OR, PA, SC, TN, TX, VA, WA, WV
    The more I think about to, it may be American culture. As reflected in the below image, Americans value self-reliance and individualism. By not charging even a little money for Ts vacations, we believe we are hindering our loved one’s self-reliance and individualism.

    As reflected in the below image, Canadians value economic security and safety. By charging even a little money for TS, you may believe you are hindering loved one’s economic security and peace.

    This is all interesting. I knew there were major differences between Americans and.Canadians, and this is one of them.
     

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    Jim, your son is very lucky!
     
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    One of the greatest joys of our 21-year timeshare ownership has been our ability to give trips to our children.
    They've been to Maui Ocean Club, Custom House, Aruba Ocean Club, Grande Vista, and Grande Ocean several times----
    all quality trips given to them free.
    We were just talking last night about other possibilities. Their work schedules are tight,
    so now it's that problem which comes into play, but they are excited about what they know and understand
    about timeshares, hotel trips using their own Rewards Points, and travel in general. They've been paying attention.

    They learned by observation while growing up, and going on literally a hundred vacation trips to all sorts of locations
    around the country and even several trips to Europe. They even branched out and went to Europe on their own.
    Going is one thing, knowing how to do it economically is another.
     
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    He already got an offer from Bell and is waiting to see what other offers he gets. I am sure he would like to work for Blue Origin, Nasa, or a another space company. But there are lot of jobs in the defense industry.
     
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    thanks for explaining ! so interesting. 24 is definitely past time to start weaning in my circle; I would say that's the issue. the USA posters here agree your approach is normal. it's always surprising to learn a new difference between the USA and other western democracies.

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    You owe no explanation of your decisions on whether or not you help your kids. The internet knows no bounds on what can be criticized.
     
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    Seems like more weaning needs to be done. But everyone does it their own way.
     
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    Note I removed some of my comments for privacy reasons. Sometimes I forget this is a public forum.

    One of the biggest differences is the cost of education and healthcare in the USA. It cost 25k a year for a kid to go away to a state school and more for private. My wife and I are both working now and that's the only reason our kids can all go to college at the same time. I don't think we are rich by any measure but we make too much money to get any assistance or discount on college costs.

    The University of Texas Austin has started a new program for incoming freshman in 2021 offering free or discounted tuition for all students based on income. The university has so many endowments they needed to do something with the money. It is too late to help us but I hope more schools follow this trend.

    When I was young my dad said " you are never going to be the smartest guy in the room so you better work harder than everyone else." I have been working my ass off ever since. I am trying to teach that work ethic to my children but in a much kinder way.

    As parents we want our kids to have better lives than we did and we hope they don't make the same mistakes that we did. I have tried to teach my kids the value of hard work, being self sufficient, and independent. At the same time being charitable and kind to those less fortunate than themselves. During the high schools years my kids just wanted wanted what all the other kids got and were probably a little frustrated with my lessons on financial responsibility and independence. Now that they have moved out and mingle with kids that grew up in different environments they are very grateful for what they had growing up.

    I am far from a perfect person and have made lots of mistakes in my life. But the only thing that really matters is I try to be a good husband and father.
     
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    Congrats! Sounds like an awesome son! With an awesome dad!
     
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    I have often gotten my brother weeks..If he stays with me, he will pitch in for groceries. If he is going on his own, he reimburses me for my maintenance fee. I don't see anything unchristian or unfair about this. He is using my weeks without having to invest in a timeshare, he has no upfront cost or ongoing obligation. All it costs him is the maintenance fee. He is happy with this arrangement. I love my brother but over the years I have gotten him 10-12 weeks vacation, if he didn't reimburse me, he would be going on vacation and I would be staying home.

    PS., I would never charge him to come stay with me at my house or cabin.
     
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    Agree. There is no right "One Way". We all do things our "Own Way"...

    George
     
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    everyone has a rationale which is why I said it wasn't about you.

    I asked whether others thought it was normal to charge a family member when they use points for a gift. 5 of 6 thought it was normal. Only one said family shares without money changing hands. So interesting!

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    thanks for chiming in! So votes are 7-2 for charging family when they use your ts or hotel points.

    Sent from my SM-J327W using Tapatalk
     
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    We allow each of the kids (3 of them) 1 free WMTC trip each year. They have a hard time planning 13 months in advance. About 75% of the time they end up cancelling. I double check with them about 40 days before check-in. 30 days is the deadline for free cancellation. With WMTC's GC instituted last year I leave the Reservation in my name until the very end.
     
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    Congrats from a Purdue Aero/Astro Engineering grad. :thumbup:
     
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