Yes, they will default to that. A given.
There is no real conversation with them up front.
This makes no sense. It's not a disputed charge if DRI agrees to a refund.
You are instructing Visa to cancel the charge. You have that right, correct? Press this with your Visa people. You made a purchase, you have not used the 'item', you want the charge reversed. Ask them why they are not abiding by your wishes and protecting you as the buyer using their card? I'd really push with the Visa people. It makes utterly no sense to
dispute a charge when the vendor has
agreed to a refund - what is there to 'dispute' in that scenario? Everyone is in accord - there is no dispute.
Call BBB.
Again, maybe some of this, like the Visa banking business, has something to do with Canadian law, or with Visa itself.
Sorry about this, mrswolfe, I was really hoping. Do like Passepartout recommends: make the sales people's job an uphill climb whenever you are around.
But I, too, as the time wore on (though it all took place within a month - pretty fast) was reconciling myself to having vacations in spots I never would have gone, on timelines so far out that I might have forgotten the dates.