Been there, done that. And, yes, I always want to have as good of understanding of the situation as possible, and provide love, support, and prayers.
It's the sloppy public announcements and non-announcements that have caused the speculation, not her actual illness. The British press have known all along what was going on. They just didn't say.
She is public figure and thrives on promoting how picture perfect her family situation is, etc. It's also helpful when health crisises are shared. Think of what Betty Ford did for breast cancer. Unfortunately this situation has not been handled in the same way.
Of course we wish her well and a long life, too. i half believe that the health crisis may be behind her. It's not 1924 though and they have kidded themselves about how they can "handle" this.